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Mattoon (111.) Journal Gazette Thursday, May 7, 1998 C3 Engaged Chick leaves nest, fears mother hen will follow Dear Abby A rassed to admit it. I offer the same advice to men that I give to women: End the abusive relationship. Although there are few shelters for men because it is believed that it's easier for to leave than it is for women, if you need moral support and suggestions, call a shelter for battered women and inquire if they also counsel men. If they do not, see a private counselor. Now is the time to take action because the situation isn't likely to change unless your wife gets long-term counseling and even then, there is no guarantee the leopardess will change her SpOtS.

For an excellent guide to becoming a better conversationalist and a more attractive person, or-: der "How to Be Popular." Send a business-sized, self-addressed envelope, plus check or money order for $3.95 ($4.50 in Canada) tor Dear Abby Popularity Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, III. 61054-0447. (Postage is DEAR ABBY: I am a 29-year-old woman who recently bought my bwn home and moved out of my parents' house. I am delighted to finallybeonmyown.

lean come and go as I please, entertain my friends and watch anything I choose on television. All of these new freedoms were "issues" when I was living with my parents. My mother has recently been having trouble with my dad. She has told me that if the situation doesn't improve, she's going to come and live with me. She doesn't ask if she can live with me she says she's going to.

I have urged her to talk out her differences with Dad, but she refuses. She says it's no use. I've told her that I enjoy being able to live my own life. She said, "Oh, youH still be able to do that," but I'm not so sure. Abby, if I say I'm happy on my owii, she lays a guilt trip on me and says, "Fine, I'll go live with your sister shell take me in." I've tried telling her she is perfectly capable of living on her own and mentioned several women her age that we both know, but she gets upset and says I am a ter- Dear Abby is distributed by Universal Press Syndicate.

rible daughter. Abby, am I terrible to feel this way? At 29, 1 need my freedom. FEELING GUILTY IN THE DESERT DEAR FEELING GUILTY: Your feelings are understandable. However, bear in mind that your mother is in turmoil at the moment If the situation with your father does not resolve itself, consider offering her temporary refuge for a specific amount of time. When that time is up, if she is still determined to live apart from your father, help her find a place of her own, or let her move in with your sister.

Daniel Basham and Jennifer Coursen A July 25 wedding is planned in St. John, New Brunswick, Canada. Family and friends are invited to a reception from 2 to 5 p.m. Aug. 15 at Calvary Baptist Church in Charleston.

to mark 90th COOKS MILLS Daniel Basham and Jennifer Coursen announce their engagement and approaching marriage. He is the son of Richard and Ninetta Basham of Cooks Mills. Her parents are Roy and Buda Courson of St. John, New Brunswick, Canada. The bride-elect is a graduate of Maranatha Baptist Bible College with a degree in music arid education and is employed at Ridgewood Baptist Academy as a second grade teacher.

She will teach in Wisconsin at a Christian school following the wedding. Her nance, a ly8 graduate of Calvary Christian Academy is a 1994 graduate of Norths land Baptist Bible College with a degree in youth ministry. He is employed with RBA as a high schooljunior high teacher and soccer coach. He will take a new position as youth pastor in Wisconsin after the wedding. Card shower WINDSOR Lucille Leonard Doty of rural Windsor will celebrate her 90th birthday Monday.

She would enjoy receiving cards and notes. They may be mailed to her at Route 1, Box 162, Windsor, 61972. She is the mother of Kathleen Hawkins of Oakland, Carolan Hennigh and Pat Cordes, both of Windsor. She has nine and eight great-grandchildren. The daughter of Robert and Nellie Leonard, she lived her early years in Mattoon and graduated from Mattoon High School in 1926.

Later that year she married Horace Doty. In the early 1930s the couple moved to a farm near Windsor and purchased their own farm in 1943. Mrs. Doty still resides there and enjoys reading, flowers, bird watching and visiting with How eating disorders affect dietetic students i. st- V--- relapses and finally no longer experiencing problems with eating behaviors.

may have fewer experiences because are more aware of the symptoms education and experience. While are no more susceptible to bulimia other profession, they are more the problem and they can understand realize what is happening at an ear-lier disorders is a problem among college no ma'tter what-theirarea of Dietetic students and dietitians are not to develop an eating disorder, but more aware and educated about the an earlier age. This experience and helps them to prevent it from being routine. culture, society, low self esteem, depression and difficulties in early childhood relationships play a big role in why people eating disorders. Our society needs aware and educated about the effects eating disorders to help prevent them is a student at Eastern Illinois Uni- By Gina Solano For Mid-Illinois Newspapers Bulimia nervosa is a common eating disorder that engages in the practice of binge eating and purging.

The prevalence of eating disorders on college campuses is on the rise; some say it is reaching epidemic proportion in col-lege women. There is a concern about dietetic students and dietitians having problems with eating disorders. Studies have shown that more than half of college women engage in binge-related activity and 3 to 19 percent are bulimic. Studies have also believed that nutritionists and dietitians may experience bulimic behaviors because of the pressures to maintain their weight and be a good role model. The clinical picture of bulimia results from an interrelationship of psychological, physiological, social and cultural factors.

Difficulties in early childhood family relationships may create psychological predisposition. Culture and society's idea of thinness and success in the feminine role may contribute to physiological predisposition. The population that has been considered vulnerable to bulimia are those whose professional advancement requires the maintenance of low body weight, such as models, ballerinas, athletes, actresses and flight attendants. This disorder primary affects young females who have a distorted perception of their body image and practice abnormal behaviors to maintain a rigid body weight that may be under-, standard- or overweight. These young women often experience low self-esteem, low tolerance to stress and depression.

Some research has indicated that students majoring in dietetics have more problems associated with food than do other students. They have found that dietetic majors actually experience bulimic behaviors at an earlier age and as they become more knowledgeable about the subject, their binge related-activity is reduced. Dietitians and nutritionists might have had a great interest in a food-related career because they themselves Were once preoccupied with their own weight management. Studies showed that a greater number of dietitians reported having bulimic behaviors at an earlier age, seeking treatment, experienc- News Notes Anniversary DEAR ABBY: When I saw the headline in your column about domestic violence, and read that you had received letters about women who physically abuse their boyfriends and husbands, I could hardly believe it. I thought I was the only one.

I have been married for 10 years. The first five-years were great. Then one day my wife hit me and we got into a terrific fight, which she won. Since then, every once in a while we have another fight after an argument and she beats me up. It is awful.

I never told anyone because I didn't have the nerve. I still love her and she makes over me afterward, which is nice, but other times I don't know what to do. I read about domestic violence, but it is always the women who are the victims. Is there any special advice about what a man should do when he's the victim? CONFUSED IN ARIZONA DEAR CONFUSED: Females abusing males is nothing new, and it is far more common than most people suspect for the very reason you gave: Men are embar pies. They should be delivered to the Toledo Fire Hall between 10 and 11 a.m.

on May 17. The Fire Department will be serving meals from 1 1 a.m. to 2 p.m. Karla Huddlestun (Hurricane Hustler leader) will organize and chair the pie stand. She will be in touch with each leader to coordinate instructions and work schedules.

To volunteer time and baking skills contact leaders. One or two volunteers from each club will be needed during the fundraiser. Volunteer appreciation picnic planned Volunteers will be honored at the fourth annual Volunteer Appreciation Picnic May 28. The Douglas-Hart staff will honor the volunteers with a piciyc prepared by the staff at 1 i a.m. Call the Nature Center to let' them know you will attend.

Statewide bird count planned Anyone who would like to join in the state wide spring bird count is welcome Saturday at the Douglas-Hart Nature Center. Call 235-4644 for more information. International tea hosted by DCCW The annual International Tea was held at Charleston recently, hosted by the Effingham Deanery Council of Catholic Women. Teresa Zimmer is president of the deanery. The event was held at the Wesley an House Student Center for students and faculty of Eastern Illinois University.

Approximately 70 students and faculty members attended. At least 1 12 countries were represented. Women from Mattoon, Mar- lortjrr ing less Dietitians they due to their dietitians then any aware of and age. Eating women study. more prone they are subject at knowledge a daily Our family turn to to be more of in the future.

Solano versity. Wattleworth-50th GREENUP Mr. and Mrs. Norman Wattleworth of Greenup will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary on May 17. An open house hosted by their children will be from 2 to 4 p.m.

that day in Fellowship Hall at the Hazel Dell Church of God. Family arid friends are invited to attend. They request no gifts. Wattleworth and wife Joann was married May 10, 1948. They are the parents of two sons, Gary and Rick, both of rural Yale, and have four grandchildren.

The couple resides at 88 County Road 2300 East, Greenup, 111. 62428. Lucille Doty friends and family. Mr, Mrs. Norman Wattleworth Shannon, The Raggedy Ann collection of Bobbie Miller and the doll collections of Velma Browning and Mary Frahm.

Christian history displays can be viewed at the museum before or after the tea. The historical Rutherford house will also be open for tours on that day. Advance reservations are required, tickets are $5 and are limited. 346-3274 or 346-2282 for tickets. Those attending are asked to wear their, favorite fancy hat and bring their favorite doll to share with others.

The planners of this event hope to bring back memories of a gentler time when we were young and innocent, where our favorite doll was our best friend and tea was the highlight of the I )l iV Coles-Cumberland HE A plans trip to Shipsheewana, Ind. The Coles-Cumberland Homemakers Education Association are planning a trip to Goshen, Nappanee and Shipsheewana, on June 23 and 24. There are shops, museums and a huge, huge flea market at Shipsheewana. After checking in at the hotel in Goshen, entertainment will be the threshers dinner and show, "Plain and Fancy." Reservations are on a first-come-first served basis. A waiting list will be initiated if the bus gets full.

More details will be provided to those who sign up. For more information call Nancy Buchanan at 849-3832 or Alice Nelson at 234-9412 by May 18. Reservations being taken for annual Dolly Me event Effingham Solos plan singles dance A dance for all singles will be held Saturday from 8 to 1 1 p.m. at the Dieterich Civic Center. The Wes Wheeler Band will provide music.

A donation will be taken at the door: $5 with food or $6 without. Women should bring food; men a 2-liter of soda. For more information call Dorothy at 268-3529 or Mae at 536-6964. Rummage sale, can drive set for Saturday The Greenup Park Improvement committee will sponsor a rummage sale Saturday at the Municipal Building. More than 20 families have contributed items for sale.

Items include clothing for all sizes, housewares, baby items, furniture and more. The sale will be from 8 a.m. to noon. All proceeds will be used for park improvements such as new playground equipment, benches, tables and fencing. Admission is free; cash only for sales.

In addition an aluminum can drive will be held. The recycling bin will be in the Municipal parking lot Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Time to prepare Nature Center newsletters Volunteers are needed to help prepare newsletters for mailing at 10 a.m. on Tuesday. Bring a-coffee mug.

Coffee, cookies and good company will be provided. Duplicate bridge winners named Winners of the regular bridge game held on April 27, have been determined. They are: M. Lang and K. Giberson and M.

Steele and R. Tayman. The club meets at 7 p.m. each Monday at the Cross County Mall. All beginner and experienced players are welcome.

There is a $2 donation. All games are Courtesy Is stratified when attendance permits. Toledo preschool registration set Books and Blocks Preschool in Toledo is accepting registration for Fall 1998 classes. The preschool is for children 3 to 5. Morning and afternoon classes are offered.

Classes begin Sept. 1. The preschool is located at 204 S. Meridian in Toledo. For more information call 849-3679.

Dolls, miniatures exhibit at Rockome Doll and miniature enthusiasts are invited to Rockome Theme Park in Areola on two weekends. The ninth annual Young at Heart Doll and Bear Show will be held this weekendDozens of dealers will sell new and old dolls and bears, doll furniture, collectibles and memorabilia. Several doll and bear collections will be on display both days. Hours areJLO a.m. to 5 p.m.

and from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Sunday. The Central Illinois Chapter of Circus Model Builders International will host a Circus Miniatures Show on May 16 and 17. The weekend includes more than 100 tables of circus miniatures.

Hours are 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Satur-" day and from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Sunday.

Both events are in Blucker Exhibit Hall at Rockome. A reduced admission price of $4 for adults and $3 for children, 4 to 12, is charged through May 17. The 15-acre park is open Wednesday through Sunday, now through May 17 and daily starting May 20. Cumberland 4-H'ers plan pie stand The Cumberland County 4-H clubs will serve pie at the Toledo Spring Festival during the Toledo Fireman's Chicken Dinner on Sunday, May 17. Each club is asked to donate eight double crust pies for the stand no pumpkin or cream Con taiou sl shall, Dieterich, Island Grove, Greenup, St.

Marie, and Shumway served cookies, punch, spreads, coffee and tea. WELLNESS 8 WISDOM ear candles aromatherapy candles and incense bach flower remedies recovery and self-help books and tapes herbal bath salts music for healing and stress reduction liquid herbal drops echinacea, black and st. john's wort therapeutic pillows essential oils and diffusers european bath and body products by Kneip therapeutic massage reflexology glyserine specialty soap 6106th Street Charleston 1 DON 'T FORGET THE MASSAGE GIFT CERTIFICATE FOR 348-8284 Come see our NEW ITEMS especially for Mother's Day! C.V, The Museum of Christian Heritage, located at the corner of Walnut and Washington in Oakland will host its second annual Dolly and Me Tea, for girls age 2 to 102 on May 16. The Williamsburg style tea will feature an array of finger sandwiches, cookies, petti fors, fresh fruit and tea. Two seatings for the tea are planned: one at noon and another at 2 p.m.

A program of collectors and at-tendees sharing their favorite dolls will be at 1 p.m. Two American Girl of Today dolls will be raffled during the program. The dolls are on display at both local banks, tickets are available at the banks or from any museum board member. The Museum will also display a large Colonial dollhouse built by Ron Hay den for his daughter MOTHER'S DAY SALE 30 OFF Selection of Collectibles 01DE VILLAGE SHOPPE Correction (formerly Village Variety) 100 East Cumberland-Greenup, IL-923-5222 The open house for the wedding anniversary of Mr. and Mrs.

Leonard Hartke of Neoga will be from 2 to 4 p.m. Sunday at Assump-ftm HalK-Anincorrect tim was ffvenin Mnnrinylamavspappr,.